Relationship and stress go hand in hand

Relationship and stress 

The life of a couple can be considered in different ways depending on the atmosphere that reigns there. It can be either a refuge where we like to take shelter, when outside everything becomes stressful and out of control, or like a place that we flee because we find even more stress there than elsewhere. .

This is why it is important to do everything to preserve this haven of peace in order to continue to draw energy from it. But it is not easy. Events both external and internal to the life of a couple can arise and turn everything upside down. It is also essential to know how to manage your stress outside, at your workplace and with the other people around you, so as not to let off steam on your spouse once you get home. In addition, managing stress can also help reduce tensions that may exist within the couple.

The life of a couple: a stressful element

At the start of a relationship, everything is rosy and everything is beautiful. Stress only begins when the relationship becomes more serious, when plans are no longer being considered for one person but for two. The stress is then multiplied by two:

• the engagements
• the wedding
• religious affairs
• the House
• children, etc ...

This is where differences of opinion and opposing points of view emerge, family pressures in addition to those of society. And this is where it all gets complicated.

This is why, letting stress invade the life of a couple without doing anything is very dangerous. In this kind of moment, the human being tends to see only the negative aspects of the situation and the other, instead of attaching to what is good and beautiful. And stress makes this tendency worse. It adds more negative feelings and prevents having a balanced view of the situation.

By learning to manage stress within the couple, we try to give more importance to the positive aspects. We can then strengthen the bonds with our spouse while reducing the impact that events have on us. The unforeseen then become an opportunity to strengthen our life as a couple.

Unforeseen events and changes in the life of a couple

Many things can happen  :

• the arrival of a child
• loss of a job
• daily management
• disease
• the death
• retirement, etc ...

But it is not the events in themselves that will determine the strength in our life as a couple but rather the way in which each one will react to it.

Especially since a couple is the union of two different people, with different backgrounds and experiences. And over time, as each person's personality may strengthen and become more present, disagreements can arise with their share of stress. If the world changes around us, everyone in the couple also evolves, the whole being to try to evolve together in the same direction thanks to common objectives.

Communication is therefore essential and it is well known: without communication, the life of a couple quickly withers. This allows you to face grief and difficulties, to share your emotions and fears, but also to avoid turning in on yourself or fleeing to the outside world. Learning to count on the other but also to support him is essential to succeed in living things together, and to be able to continue to experience joys together.

Fighting stress in the couple

To fight effectively against stress in the life of a couple, the state of mind is one of the most important things. This is why being positive, reasonable and realistic goes a long way in reducing stress. Also, learning to compromise is far from a weakness. This will become a real force to avoid conflicts. In addition, you will find forgiveness which is one of the keys to the development of the couple.

Another important point is also to do everything to avoid spreading your own stress. The other is not responsible for what may happen in the office or problems encountered on the road. Managing your stress well outside already allows you to avoid a good part of the stress inside the life of a couple. For that, reading, sport, taking time together are all ways to improve quality of life and lower tensions.

Finally, an intimate, deep and sincere relationship also protects against stress. Friendship makes it possible to face anxious events and to live them better. We understand then that making our spouse our best friend and being on whom we rely above all can help to fight against the problems. And it will remove any situation that could bring harmful stress in the life of a couple.